“That’s the thing about pain, it demands to be felt”- The Faults in Our Stars

Pain. Suffering. Grief. All aspects of life one would not be delighted to experience. They are in fact inevitable, however after reading the book The Faults in Our Stars, one views these aspects of life in a way as beautiful. Sounds kind of crazy, trust me, I thought twice before writing that down. The book revolves around a love story of two cancer patients and at certain points of the book a few quotes got my attention. One of them being “That’s the thing about pain, it demands to be felt”. Whether mental or physical, pain does in fact, figuratively, demand to be felt. It’s inevitable in the most intriguing way. Coming to this realization as a person who is constantly in denial, I realize that in fact the only way to lessen your pain is to accept it. Telling yourself that its not there or distracting yourself from any sort of pain doesn’t make it go away, it only shelters you from what’s real and in a way what’s pure. This whole realization made me realize that as Winston Churchill once said “If you’re going through hell, keep going” and it honestly finally makes sense to me because everything has an end whether its mental or physical pain. Not only did that quote get to me but so did many other parts of the book, like the part where one of the characters mentions that you can choose who hurts you. Of course this seems absurd at first, but once I thought it through, it seems to be genuinely true. We choose who hurts us in life mentally and emotionally through our love to people and through our trust and loyalty to others, because everything around us is ephemeral and so the fact is you will eventually lose people, some people can hurt you by choice, and some things are simply unavoidable. So choose the people that are worth the hurt. In conclusion, I would like to state that without pain, one couldn’t have gratitude for things like love, loyalty, and life.

By: Yosr Abdelbary