The truth about friends, of a recent discovery in high school

We all have “friends”, or at least we like to think we do. We have “close friends”, “best friends” “good friends”, “family friends” and well “friends. The list can go on endlessly, because it’s in our nature to label those we know. Truth is, as bluntly as this may seem – there is only one kind of friend, with no labels needed there. Others are just people you associate with on a day-to-day basis or from time to time.  Friends are people you can comfortably hang out with; share your secrets to – with no worries of embarrassing yourselves. Friends are people who you don’t need to hide your self from. You are free to be whom you choose to be. On some cases they are even the ones where you won’t feel ashamed to do whatever it is you do in private.

People always tell you watch out whom you choose to be friends with. And at this point in my life I couldn’t agree more. The easiest way to identify a real friend is someone who always wishes the best for you. There’s no greed or selfishness coming from either side.  They appreciate the little things you do for them, and they wait for nothing in return.  You can expect to rely on them whenever you need to, and be sure that they will understand you. It’s a two way street on this case, because at all times you’re happy to help them and see the best for them. You want to see them happy, because seeing them happy makes you happy too.

I say forget about not having expectations. Yes, EXPECTATIONS. People always fear being disappointed because they have expectations, but I tell you now that you’d never have to be disappointed when it comes to real friends. It’s not wrong to expect that your friends will keep your secrets, or be there when you need them to be. You should have no shame when you put the line between real friends and people whom you simply associate with. It’s not wrong to know your self worth.  You have all the right to trust that your friends won’t trash talk about you behind your back. You have all the right to trust that your friends are not ashamed of you either.

As far expectations go, be wise enough to know when it is right to forgive them as well. Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s in your hands to listen and understand their actions.

The reason as to why I may say this is a recent discovery, especially in high school is because this is the time where your life is truly concentrated on friends, family and grades. Every year things change, if not every month. You constantly change your circle of friend until you find some common ground. Pay attention to the people who stick by you in the hard times. They’re the ones you really want in your life. It takes time to truly learn to hold on tight to the right friends. By time everyone learns from his or her mistakes. Just be kind to yourself and others. Treat others how you’d like to be treated and you will never have to settle for anything less.